#60 “Identifying Barrier: To Answered Prayer!”

(Relationships Troubles)

“Husband, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives,

and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you

 of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.”

[Peter 3:7].”

King James Version (KJV)  

Most of women can no doubt quote this verse verbatim because it’s what husbands are instructed to do regarding their wives. I wonder how many of us can quote the proceeding verses which say, “Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear.” You see this is a joint effort and no one partner can make up for what the other one is not doing.  “Respect,” in a marriage is paramount and can’t be substituted with gifts, money or fancy homes, cars and clothes. There are plenty of men and women with all the above but do not have respect of one another. What good are all these things if you are cheating on your mate, or disrespecting them in public and private? What good is it to have all these things and he want come home from the office until you are asleep?

Shattered relationships will hinder your prayers tremendously, why because if you can’t talk to your mate how in the world do you expect to talk to God? “And here’s a second offense: You fill the place of worship with your whining and sniveling because you don’t get what you want from God. Do you know why? Simple, Because God was there as a witness when you spoke your marriage vows to your mate, and now you’ve broken those vows, broken the faith-bond with your vowed companion, your covenant spouse. God, not you, made marriage. His Spirit inhabits even the smallest details of marriage. And what does He want from marriage? Children of God, that’s what. So guard the spirit of marriage within you. Don’t cheat on your spouse” [Malachi 2:3].  I know that we live in a society where divorce is common place, you can get a divorce for $49.99 when it cost in some cases $1000 – $10,000 just to get marriage. Yet we throw it away so cheaply and why; because, of irreconcilable differences that we never took to God to reconcile. 

I realize that for many women they did not have a choice in the matter; because, once that spouse gets it into their head to leave, nothing short of a miracle could’ve stopped them. So then what are we to do, continue to serve the Lord and let Him work it out? That’s the best thing to do and walk in love toward that mate. The apostle Peter admonished husbands to live together with their wives in understanding and keep the peace between you. Wives you are to respect and them as head of the household even if some are not saved, your behavior before God and how you respect them can be won to Christ. 

But marital distress if not the only family issue which can hinder our prayers, any relationship that is not function accordingly would have the same affect when it comes to our prayer lives.  Why is this? Because unforgiveness applies to everyone not just or spouses, but our children or brothers and sisters, mothers and fathers aunts and uncles…it applies to “Everybody”! “The Lord is compassionate and gracious, slow and anger, abounding in love. He will not always accuse, nor will He harbor His anger forever: He does not treat us as our sins deserve or repay us according to our iniquities.”[Psalm 103:8-10]  This is the love of God demonstrated and He requires us to do the same demonstrate His love. Otherwise how can we expect Him to keep His promises to us when we want even obey His word? “If you can’t obey then you can’t pray, expecting to receive an answer for the Father.” And please don’t go to God asking Him to, “fix my mate!” Start with yourself first! Now I don’t mean this if you are in an abusive relationship; because your prayer should be lord get me to a safe place! Then pray for the Father to save that man or woman and deliver them from the spirit of rage and abuse.

 

But if you and your spouse have had an argument about some little non-sensible thing; and now you are not talking to him or her… ask God to help fix before, before you spend the next two hours praying for their deliverance. Have you ever heard the phrase “it takes two to tango,” then just tango back in there and apologize and then go pray! Some of the issues that couples come to counseling for is a simple case of disrespect on both parts. When you love someone, even if you disagree you will not be content until you find a happy solution together where both can be happy. It’s not a battle of the wills. You are a team and teams work together, so learn to work in perfect harmony with each other based on the word of God. “if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother, then come and offer your gift.” So what is God saying, “STAY AT HOME AND BE RECONCILED,” than come and worship and praise the Lord! But then He adds “if it is possible, as far as it depends on you, leave at peace with everyone.” Sometimes you have done all you know to do and that person still wants to hold a grudge the you have done your part…if the situation gets too out of hand the called the elders of the church to help mediate. We cannot make anyone walk in the love of God it has to be a choice of theirs. Just make sure that you’ve done all you know to do.

My Prayer” You are such a Wonderful Counselor and a Prince of peace, Lord God we pray for relationship and ask you to heal the broken and severed relationship among you people. Knit their hearts together with Your unfailing love.  Help them to be reconciled one with another; tear down all walls of division which separates them and cause them to demonstrate you Love and Grace, and forgiveness. These things we ask in Jesus name Amen!!!

Have A Bless Day…Go in God’s Peace! 

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