#59 “Identifying Barrier: To Answered Prayer!”

(Being Unwilling to Forgive)

 

“And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against

 anyone,  forgive him, so that your Father in heaven

 may forgive you your sins.”.”

[Mark 11: 25].”

King James Version (KJV)

 

Unforgiveness is another crippling barrier to your prayers being answered; because it interrupts the flow of communication between you and the Father and others.  Just like bitterness it never hurts the people you are upset with, more than it does the one who’s unwilling to forgive.  Someone said that holding unforgiveness is much like drinking deadly poison and expecting the other person to die. The interesting thing about unforgiveness and root of bitterness is that they can be hidden beneath the surface and go undetected until we are confronted with something that triggers the emotion to resurface. “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift." Beloved, don't try to give God your gifts when you know that you are harboring unforgiveness in your heart, it just want work, leave your gift at the altar and go be reconciled with that person. 

 

I recall having dealt with unforgiveness for many years but did not know that it was unforgiveness. I just thought that I did not like the person; whenever, someone mentioned their name, this deep disgusting feeling would come over me.  It wasn’t until I had gone into the mission field full-time that the Lord told me, that He need me to forgive the person that I was holding unforgiveness towards. I knew that I didn’t like the person but they were also dead and for me I thought that settled the matter. However the Lord told me that unless I was willing to release them, I could never go where He needed me to go! Need I say that was all I needed to hear I said, “Okay Lord what do I need to do?” “But if you will not forgive the children of men, neither has your Father forgiven you your faults.”

 

One of the first things that we must do is, be willing to release the person or people who have offend us, be willing to let it go! You can’t hold onto those old hurts and not allow the Lord to heal your heart for the offense. One of the biggest offenses is, one from a spouse who betrayed you or cheated on you. Divorce is a major cause of unforgiveness. How can I let him or her go when they have wounded me so deeply? This is a big issue, because divorce is like someone ripping apart to items, which have been welded or interwoven together. It is impossible to do so without ripping out a part of the other item as well.  This person has access to every intimate thing about your life and when they go they take a major portion of you with them! So how can you forgive them? "Make every effort to live in peace with all men and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord."

 

Well here’s what you must do, you must love their soul enough to release it! My ex-husband and I were married for 18 years and his leaving left me feeling rejected, defective and broken, not to mention the embarrassment. I felt as though something was terribly wrong with me; because, he didn’t love me as much as I loved him. It took many year for me to regain my confidence; because I thought I knew him; but found out that I only knew that part he allowed me to know.  The truth of the matter is this, only God can completely know a person, we can only know them in part. I felt that because I was willing to love him beyond his faults he should have been willing to do the same. This greatly affected my future relationships going forward; because, I had a very low tolerance for anyone who had some of the same faults and hang-up that he had.  I just wasn’t willing to over look these issues again in another person, after all what did it get me before? But I had to rememberthat, "above all things being fervent in your love among yourselves; for love covereth a multitude of faults,"

 

This was unforgiveness and not matter how I tried to make it be something else it just was what it was…”UNFORGIVENESS,” and I had to let it go. And I did!!! But that doesn’t mean that it want still resurface for time to time, when it does I just remind myself I have been set free from that unforgiveness.  Now my ex-husband and I are great friends and whenever we have an occasion to get together we sit and talk for hours getting caught up.  Beloved this is when you know that you have overcome unforgiveness, when you can walk in love towards the person(s) who hurt you.

 

My Prayer: Gracious Father thanks you for this day and for your many blessings. We acknowledge Your bountiful blessings and loving-kindness. Thank you for forgiving us of our offenses and helping us to do the same. Father we realize that if we do not forgive others you will not forgive us of our sins. We release those who have hurt us and caused us pain in the past and present. We thank you for giving us the strength to release them and love them through your unfailing love. We give you praise for all that you’re doing in and through us in Jesus name Amen!

 

Have A Bless Day…Go in God’s Peace!

 

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